The time it takes for a man to ejaculate during sexual intercourse will vary from couple to couple. At some point in their lives, many men will feel as though they have ejaculated too soon during a sexual encounter. However, premature ejaculation is generally defined as regularly ejaculating within one minute of penetration.
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems that affects men. According to the Sexual Advice Association, estimates of how many men are affected by premature ejaculation range from 5% to 31%.
If you have been experiencing premature ejaculation for a while, then it is likely that your condition has been caused by psychological factors. These can include:
Early sexual experiences can shape your current ejaculatory habits. If you had a traumatic sexual encounter at a young age, then this may be causing your premature ejaculation.
Additionally, if many of your early sexual experiences were associated with nervousness, anxiety and urgency, then this may be causing your condition.
Suffering from anxiety and depression can also cause premature ejaculation. This could be related to your relationship or completely separate from it.
If you are anxious about sex due to a fear of getting your partner pregnant, transmitting a sexual transmitted infection (STI) or being scared of your sexual performance, this may be causing your condition.
Premature ejaculation may also be caused by having a bad body image and being uncomfortable with your partner.
If you aren't affected by the psychological factors above and have only suffered from premature ejaculation recently then your condition may be caused by physical factors. These can include:
If you are afraid that your premature ejaculation may be caused by these physical factors then you should see your GP for an official diagnosis.
If you are experiencing relationship problems outside the bedroom, then this may be affecting your performance inside the bedroom.
If you suffer from a lot of stress in your relationship from your partner, such as from unrealistic expectations or nasty arguments, then this may be contributing to your condition.
Other relationship problems that may affect your premature ejaculation include having a lack of trust between you and your partner or being generally dissatisfied with your relationship.
There are many treatments available for premature ejaculation. These include:
You can also try other methods of arousal (foreplay) to prevent you from ejaculating sooner than you'd like.
If you feel that your premature ejaculation is caused by psychological factors, such as having a traumatic early sexual experience or relationship problems, then seeking individual or couple's therapy may improve these underlying issues. Treating these issues will not only help your overall mental health but will also help you stop your premature ejaculation.
Dapoxetine is a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) that has been developed to treat premature ejaculation. It is sold as Priligy in pharmacies and should be taken one to three hours before sex and not more than once a day. If you would not like to discuss your condition with your GP then you can use an online pharmacy, such as Prescription Doctor, to buy Priligy online instead.
You can also use anaesthetic topicals (such as lidocaine or prilocaine) to numb your penis and reduce sensitivity during sex. You should apply this cream to your penis 30 minutes before sex and wash it off before you have intercourse, so that it doesn't numb your partner.
You can buy condoms with a numbing agent in them. These condoms reduce your sensitivity to help you and your partner enjoy the intimacy for longer.
Thick condoms may also help to reduce your sensitivity, helping you last longer while also keeping you and your partner protected.